Expectations in relationships after marriage || Acharya Prashant (2019)

Question: Acharya Ji, before marriage, every relationship that I had has been very natural. I never did anything to be good with them. But once I got married, it is not coming that natural.

Please guide.

Acharya Prashant(AP):

Where there is desire, there is conflict.

Even the relationship with the family members before marriage is not really natural. It is just that you know that there is not much to be desired there. If you have desires even with your parents, then there would be conflicts even with the parents.

It is not about marriage, it is about desire.

Especially in India, girls know that do not have very high stakes in the parents’ house. Soon they would be out of the ancestral place. So they anyway do not raise there desires very high with respect to parents, and the parental place. They know that they are anyway going to go away. So the expectations are not very high. And because the expectations are not very high, so the relationship remains smooth.