Most of us. Dilpreet, probably, you too have faced such a situation at some point of time. Not only do we become victims of such situations, we also perpetuate such situations. We internalize the views of the society. If I am dark-colored, not only do I think that there is something missing in me, but I also think that there is something missing in every person who is dark-colored. So, I may be a dark-colored mother who has suffered all her life, thinking about her complexion, but I will still not wake-up. When my daughter is born, I will tell her that you too are unfortunate because you are dark-colored. So, we are not only victims, we are also predators. We are perpetrators of all this foolishness. In all this lies the word ‘becoming’ at the center. You must become something else, in order to feel good. How many of you want to become something? Something that you are not right now. Right now you stand at a particular point. How many of you want to go away from this particular point and ‘become’ something? Now friends, you do not understand that this quest to become something is at the root of all feeling of unworthiness. If I want to become something, then obviously, my mind is saying that I will be good when I become ‘that’. I will be worthy, I will be beautiful, I will be respectable, when I become ‘that’. Naturally, that means that right now I am not worthy, not respectable, not good enough. And if you keep feeling that you are not good enough, can you be confident Dilpreet? Please understand this. Anybody who wants to become something would always be suffering from an inferiority complex. Because only the one who feels inferior wants to become something else. Because only the one who feels inadequate, incomplete wants to become something else. But the mind is a trickster. It says, ‘when you become that, then you will be confident’. Try to become ‘that’ so that you can be confident. Try to get a particular hair-cut so that you can feel confident. Now, you do not see that you lack confidence that is why you want that particular hair-cut. Anything coming from lack of confidence cannot give you confidence. Why do I want a particular hair-cut, a particular hair-style? So that I can feel confident in front of my friends. Where is that desire to get that particular hair-style coming from? Lack of confidence. How can something arising from lack of confidence, give you confidence? It is just not possible. But we all have been brought up thinking that way. In fact, even the quest for confidence, that I must be confident is something that has been implanted in your mind by the society. We started-off by saying that the child is very confident. It is not very accurate. The fact is, the child does not even think that he is very confident. We may think that he is very confident, but the child is just being himself; just natural. If you ask the child, ‘are you confident?’ The child will say, ‘what is confidence?’ ‘Go away, who bothers about confidence’. The child is not even confident, he does not need confidence. You too do not need confidence. I assure you that I am not confident at all when I am speaking to you. Honestly, I am not at all confident when I am speaking to you. That does not mean that I lack confidence. That just means that the word ‘confidence’ is not applicable at all at this instance. I am not even thinking of confidence. How many of you are listening to me confidently? When you are listening to me, are you listening confidently or you are just listening, attentively?
